Planning a prayer meeting or remembrance gathering
A prayer meeting gives friends and family a place to grieve together. A little planning keeps it calm.
Updated 5 minute read
Choosing the kind of gathering
Different communities hold different gatherings: the chautha or uthala a few days after the funeral, the terahvi on the thirteenth day, the bhog ceremony for Sikh families, a memorial service for Christian families. Others prefer a simple gathering with no particular ritual. Follow your family’s custom, or what feels right.
Venue and timing
Gatherings are held at home, at a place of worship, at a community centre or in a prayer hall. Most last about an hour. Choose a time that lets working friends and relatives attend, and a place that is easy to reach.
Sharing the details
A short, clear message works best: the name of your loved one, the type of gathering, the date, time and address, and the names of the family. Many families share it on WhatsApp and in a newspaper notice.
A simple checklist
- A framed photograph and fresh flowers
- Seating for elders, and space for guests to offer flowers
- A pandit, granthi or officiant, if prayers will be led
- Bhajan singers or musicians, if you would like music
- Water, and tea or a meal if it is your custom
